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At every stage of life either in happiness or during hard times our relationships and families  are only two things who stick to us till the grave . Learning to manage stress,  understanding our own emotions and behaviors, and  effective communication will help strengthen our own emotional health and also our connections to the important people in our lives.

Family are attached by blood kinship, affinity and fellow feeling.

What constitutes a family?

Parents (wife and husband) and children together and some more fellow members related by blood, like grandparents, in-laws, and relatives like cousin brothers or sisters all together constitute a family.

 Families that exist in this world:

  • Joint-families or extended families:
    • These families are very big, constituting more than four members, building a family tree which starts from root/grandparents and then after their children known as sub parents and then their children and so on. This type of families can be found/seen/encountered in villages only.


  • Nuclear families:
    • Nuclear family or elementary family is a term used to define a family group consisting of a pair of adults (mother and father) and their children. This type of families differs from extended family. Mostly found in those cities which have been adopted western culture, especially western countries.

Importance of Family relations:

Family is the primary/fundamental institution/organisation for the Socialization of children to the norms of their culture. It is the building block which builds up a person(s) personality. Everything, like the way one behave, the way he/she get recognition in society, that happens in one’s life is totally dependent on his/her family life. Actually a child mostly learns from his/her family only. The way the family members deal with him/her has a long impact on personality and career. Keeping this in the mind the importance of family relations /life cannot be taken as with frivolity.

  • Building healthy and strong ties within a family:

Family relations take place as a significant part in one’s life till he/she grew up. The children are very closer to their parents and their siblings compared to any other person in the world. So they learn a lot from their family relations. As the children grow up gradually they find their friends, partner/better half, other relations, and colleagues to share their lives with. While time brings change in the life but the importance of family remains there. Children having a big family containing so many family relations are almost happier than others. Thus the importance of family life cannot be neglected.


  • Life wanting Family:

Life without family is a disaster. We see lot of orphans in our country. Those children suffer and loss a lot because they have no family with them. Family plays a major role in everyone’s life, in the development of a person they become today. The goals set by ourselves in our life are very much dependent on the family life we have with us.

  • Family serving selflessly:

A child who brought up from a rich family and education background will tend to learn more, and they get educated more. Thus the child can dream more and get success easily only because of their family support. The children belonging to film or any other field stars would adopt those qualities and be recognised and get fame in the same way as their parents do have. Similarly children, who belong to a family interested in professional sports, tend to have an interest in sports, plan for their future in the same field and set goals to reach in their life. Thus it is the impact of the family life which guides and makes one to decide what he/she wants to do in his/her profession as an adult.

  • · Family furnishes:
  • Basic strength as a person
  • Culture
  • Personality development
  • Socialization
  • Secured life
  • Confidence
  • Positive attitude and so many

A healthy family provides all these above qualities. But children who come from broken family, generally less confident, have a negative impact on their life, become scared about their life. Those people always expect the worst in their life. Thus family has a lot of importance in every one’s life in shaping him/her as a person.

Family life in today’s world:

 In today’s world the healthy and big families are diluting. Everywhere there are only small families, father, mother and two children. Gradually in these ongoing days broken families are increasing in number. In today’s world the importance of family is considered to be less by the people as it is used to be. In many areas of world the time period for which people live together as a family is shrinking. Family relations also add a sense of responsibility in one’s personality. The person who lacks this quality is due to poor family relations only.





Healthy Relationship

Healthy Relationship:

To build a healthy relationship, it is important to:


A relationship should build on a cornerstone/foundation of respect and appreciation. The fellow member with whom we are just going to start a relationship, we must keep focus on all the considerate things that he/she says and does, like friends considerate enough to leave us alone. We must remember the sweet things that happen with our partner/fellow being and say “Thank you” for even small favor rather than finding/focusing on mistakes our partner/fellow member has made.


Explore each and every good memory, interests in deep with each Relationship

other. So that they can refresh their ideas, memories and interests of each other, they can have a long list of things to enjoy together.  Try new things together to elaborate mutual interests, and ideas.


Establish a pattern in a way by asking apology if we make a mistake that hu


rts our fellow member. So that the misunderstanding raised between fellow partners will calm down before it increase.  Saying “sorry” is difficult and hard at that moment, but it shows a long impact towards healing a rift/break in a relationship. Thus our partner will trust us more, if he/she feels that we take responsibility for words and actions for what we does.

By focusing on the above points one can build a healthy relationship.

As relationship grows up:

As relationship grows up changes are quite happen. Change in life is inevitable; we must welcome it as an opportunity to enhance our relationship more fruitful. We must have a check in with each other on changing expectations and goals. If a couple ignore difficult topics for too long, their relationship will get disturbed and drifted away into river of problems due to negligence.

What to do if conflict arises

A relationship can be strengthening if we positively resolve the dissonances that occur among us. It is common that there will be a period of sadness, anger, misunderstandings between fellow members.

Resolving conflict requires honesty, truthfulness, and a willingness to understand our partner’s perspective, also a lot of communication. The following are some course of actions for successful communication and resolving conflicts.

Understand each other: 

First of all understand each other. Distribute the problems that occur in their life with each other. Think peacefully how the conflicts are aroused.  Drag a solution by communicating and expressing views of both.  Try to solve problems facing by our fellow being in his/her life with permission.

Establish empathetic environment:

Emotional support involves accepting our partner’s dissimilarities/differences. To resolve conflicts among fellow members emotional support is essential. We must find out the way in which he/she expresses love, affection for us.


A situation occurs where mostly friends or a couple or siblings never completely agree on some issues that takes place among them. Rather than to continue the fights, agree to disagree and deal the situation with compromise to end the issue.  Do the best to keep focus on resolving one concern at a time.


Be a good listener, it requires the following:

a)       Don’t interrupt

b)       Focus on what our fellow member is trying to say and

c)       Must check out what we heard and understood

By doing this the resentment will calm down. After completion of saying by our fellow being he/she will listen to us carefully for our reply in the sense of favor to him/her. We must do the same thing what they expect.


Hence a healthy relationship can be constructed and protected in a fruitful way.







Friendship- It is like a ship where strangers/individuals become friends, travel and have a joyful journey throughout the life.  The starting point of this journey is school where we acquire lot of friends. Definition of Friendship is explained in many ways.

Friendship is a feeling of love, care and mutual affection of one living being for another. This feeling of love must be reciprocated. Otherwise friendship does not happen.

Some people think friendship is a feeling of affection between two like minded persons of similar status. In my view it is wrong and if friendship is possible in that sense only then it will not termed as a real friendship I believe.

It is a commonly said that “A Friend in need is a Friend in deed”.

Every individual have several friends. But best friend(s) would be one or may be a few.  Trust is the plinth or we can say it is the pillar for friendship. Without trust friendship would no longer sustain. How an umbrella protects us from rain, thus a friend cares for the other in every aspect. He will be present whenever we require his/her support or help or we need his advice to take serious decisions in our life. Friend is the only backup with whom we can share anything it may include sheer personal matters. His or her presence will be there in sharing our happiness or sadness. A friend never give-up his support when we need it. He/she gives moral support too. Never expect the same from us. Friendship is very delicate. Friends don’t give a chance for even small differences that may become a cause for destruction of their relation.

True friendship:

Some times in our life we may face certain obstacles or we may come into a situation that we cannot make an appropriate decision or we may not have an idea which is correct or which is not. If anyone faces such a type of situation and at that time if he / she follow the advice of a friend without thinking twice it could be termed as just friendship.  In a true friendship faith in him/her is equivalent to the faith in god. A true friend would be like our eyelid that protects our eyes from any time mishap. 

When friendship would take place in our life?

Obviously it takes birth at the time of schooling. Friendship is beyond age, status, greed, color and race. In a true friendship there is no place for ego, pride, jealousy, hatred and miss understanding. It may occur between human being and animals also. In foreign countries we see, people love to adopt animals. They mostly spend lot of time with their pets only. Children make friendship with their pets. They suffer a lot if anything happens to them.

Mostly people make friendship with same age people. Children like to play with their friends of same age, the same as the other aged people also. Friendship may take place between a boy and girl also. It is not wrong until their minds are in control.

Friends the benefactors and beneficiaries:

It is apparent that friendship is tool of moral support. We feel relieved by the side of a friend even in the moments of sorrow. A true friend is an inexpensive, valuable asset for us.  They soften our souls when we are in pain and agony. Friends are soul mates.

When a friend cheats us we suffer a lot of pain. We lose our consciousness for a moment. It takes time to recover from such am embarrassing situation. Again we don’t get such courage to make friendship with another.

So maintaining friendship is not as easy as we think. We must make friendship with true people only. Be cautious while choosing a friend as he/she is going to take part in our life. We should never try to lose good friends as they play significant role in our life. If we really want true friendship we must be true to our friends. We must honor our friendship.

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